This goes for friends and partners who haven't dated, too, now that I think of it.
Set aside time for each of them and honor it — don't drag your lover along on girls' night out (not even if your lover is a lady; queer chicks are 4. Don't ask your man if you're prettier/smarter/better at Scrabble than his last girlfriend.
If you find yourself faced with one of those moments, we're here to here to help you keep your cool (and decide whether it's worth keeping your friend): How to Handle Your Best Friend Hooking Up With Your Ex-Girlfriend.Queers don't tend to expect our dates to come into our lives completely free of prior complication.We know our backstories will be tangled and intertwined.They dated casually for a few weeks before they split up and we got together, and three years later the same friend gave one of the readings at our wedding.Whether you're gay, straight, bi, or not into labels, dating a friend's ex can absolutely be done without sacrificing your friendship — you just have to follow a few simple guidelines.1. It's common to assume that anything shared with you is by default shared with your partner as well; however, your friend might be much less comfortable speaking to you in confidence if she thought the details of her personal life were going to be relayed to someone who used to share her toothbrush.Shutterstock When it comes to dating your friend’s ex, most of us know “The Code.” It’s that Girl Code that contains the unspoken rule that dating your friend’s ex is TOTALLY out of the question. But are there any “loopholes” when it comes to this “rule?