But that doesn’t mean it can’t or won’t go anywhere.
In fact, some of your very best friends are probably members of the opposite sex.
“Sometimes you don’t feel anything right away, but over time you come to realize it may be more,” says Josh, a 27-year-old public relations specialist.
“You don’t know them as well, and there are still things to discover, which makes an exciting spark.” In these casual friendships, you might even find yourself on his back-burner.
Averaged across both samples, attraction was listed as a cost or complication by 32 per cent of participants – five times more often than it was listed as a benefit or enhancement.
For young women, and men and women in the older sample, more attraction to their closest friend was associated with feeling less satisfied with their romantic partner.
But before, after and in between those two moments, there can be lots of signals that your friend has a crush on you — or that you have a crush on them, or that you are both super hung up on each other and it's only a matter of time before you start making out.