Many engaged couples enter therapy before marriage to increase their changes for a happy, healthy marriage.
If your partner is pushing you to get married, take heed.
One of the most common red flags in a dating relationship is thinking you have to play a role or act like something or someone you are not.
So, if you are in a current relationship, ask yourself, "Can I be myself in this relationship or do I have to mask some of my feelings?
Unfortunately, far too many people dismiss the personality or behavioral problems of their partners.
They often feel that the love they feel in the relationship will overcome such behaviors. Warren says, "if there are qualities about your partner's personality or behavior that you question -- like jealousy, temper, irresponsibility, dishonesty, or stubbornness -- ask yourself if you're willing to spend the rest of your life dealing with these problems." Dismissing such behavior can cause long term pain if you choose to move the dating relationship into a serious relationship or marriage.
Unless people deal with their own personal issues first, any relationships they enter into will be in danger. Warren writes, "In fact, when a couple is not healthy, they will inevitably damage, and maybe even destroy, their marriage." These marriages often end in divorce, causing additional emotional pain for both partners.
Before you marry, take time to know yourself and your own issues.
Then invest time in understanding your partner better.
If you are uncomfortable with your date's advances, tell him/her.
Their response will reveal their true feelings about you.
It will save both parties a lot of pain down the road. Warren suggests that dating couples should avoid choosing a mate to please someone else.