This inability to truly let the past go will sabotage your current relationship." —Bais"Drinking alcohol or taking drugs are sadly common ways people self-sabotage their life and relationships.They use chemicals for comfort, instead of their partner.That can create illusions that you're in a healthy relationship because you choose not to see the bad.Even though you we might not be aware of it consciously, subconsciously you're compensating for the elements that are missing.
The very thing that they say that they want is the thing that they take away from their partner, using silence as a punishment or weapon.
What you fail to celebrate will eventually deteriorate, so by neglecting to prioritize your relationship you're dooming it to failure.
You don't always have to put your partner first, but you need to make sure they are often getting the best parts of you and not just the tired, cranky person at the end of the day." "You have likely experienced some very challenging and heart-wrenching things over the course of your lifetime and over your relationship, yet the ability to differentiate between forgiving and forgetting are subtle and profound.
You might begin to notice a daily habit of wine, vodka, or pills.
It starts off so easy, so innocent, but this is the beginning of a disaster.
"When a relationship moves to a new level and the commitment strengthens, some people may get nervous and subconsciously try to sabotage it by looking for a way out, like if your significant other wants to introduce you to their family and all you can think of is reasons you can't make it." —"If you tend to hold grudges against your partner, ask yourself what the benefit is to you.